Great tips for attracting the right kind of partner.
admin | Jan 01, 2010 | Comments 0
One of the most important desires of any man or woman on the planet is to love and be loved back in return. There are few things as painful as unrequited love. At some point in our lives though, we all experience this dreaded feeling. But how do we not attract the right partner, but ensure that the relationship blossoms, year after year.
Know what you want.
One of the most important things is to exactly who you are and what you want from your relationship. And remember, while it might be good to fantasize about a Hollywood style relationship, the truth is in reality, these relationships rarely happen. This is not to say you should accept any loser of a partner. Far from it. Set your standards and stick to them. Do remember though, that the perfect person doesn’t exist. Never go into a relationship thinking you can change the person. Rather, acknowledge what it is you don’t like about the person and think if you can cope with it for the rest of your life. If you can, then it won’t be a problem otherwise you may have to move on to someone else.
Look in the right places.
After knowing what type of partner you want, the next step is where you can find them. Chubby chasers with a fondness for big beautiful women could do worse than register on niche sites catering to dating BBW’s. Is religion the most important thing to you? Well start hauling yourself to meetings to meet other like minded singles. There is no point frequenting clubs and bars if all you want is a Christian mate to settle down and eventually start a family with. You may find him there but it is more than likely that they are the exception rather than the rule. You need to begin to frequent where you stand a higher chance of meeting and eventually getting to know the kind of person you want frequents.
Accept yourself.
Just like you can’t expect someone to change as that is essentially part of what makes them who they are, so must you also learn to accept yourself. This might include trying to learn new thought processes in order to improve as a person. The important thing here is that you acknowledge that you could become a better person and make changes of your own free will and not because someone has told you to. Having a positive mindset on even our worst days can help in turning a gloomy mood into something maybe not cheerfully happy, but at least not so gloomy. One very important thought process involves accentuating the positives in our lives. This leaves no space for self doubt which in turn reduces low self worth. Project positivity and you’ll be amazed how much of it you get back.
Retain an air of mystery
Finally, DO try to retain an air of mystery when you do get your partner. This doesn’t mean playing games or not returning phone calls. No. far from it. However, you do not want to spell out all your wishes and needs on the first few dates. Remember, you want to get to know the real person you think you might fall in love and spend the rest of your life with. Tell them you like flowers or chocolates too soon in your relationship and by God, you will get flowers and chocolates – until the novelty wears off and they return to being their true selves. Rather, let them know enough, but just enough to keep them intrigued so that there is anticipation for the next date.
This article was first published on CurvyDate.co.uk, a UK dating BBW site and a place to mingle with plus size singles.
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