BBW advice – Meeting your date the first time.

by admin on October 29, 2011

So you’ve read his headline and profile and exchanged winks and emails. He seems a really exciting guy (or for our men members, larger date) and you think you are now ready to finally meet this guy  and see if you can take things to the next level. Well there are a couple of things you need to have in place to ensure that your date goes as planned.

Safety, safety, safety.
Always meet in a public place. It may be a quiet place but it has to be public and it must be where you are never on your own. Especially as it’s the first date. A coffee shop or a restaurant would be ideal. Even though on our dating bbw site we make effort to ensure our residents live in the UK or Ireland, sad as it is, people do misrepresent themselves online. Always have your mobile phone on you and tell a reliable friend or family where you are going. If possible have them ring you an hour into your scheduled meeting time with your date just to make sure you are okay. Also, give them an idea of how long you think you’ll be gone. Have your transportation to get you to and from your meeting point. Don’t forget to call them back though if things are going better than planned.

Have interesting topics of conversation.
So you’ve decided where to meet and told family and friends who are excited for you. Now what are you going to talk about. Most people feel awkward about talking about themselves, plus you don’t want to come across as self centered, but a little planning in advance can help prevent those awkward silences. There’s no harm in reading a newspaper to brush up the lastest current affairs. Just make sure it’s a newspaper you would normally read. You are not trying to put on an act and rattling on about the Bank of England’s fiscal monetary policy when you don’t have the slightest bit of interest isn’t going to do your budding relationship the slightest bit of good as it isn’t who you are or what you are about. Things like family, hobbies, holidays or schools attended can spark a conversation and you might even discover you have mutual friends! Try to avoid potentially controversial topics like religon or politics until you know each other better and can be sure your points of view will not be misconstrued.

Follow your intuition.
While it is wrong to judge a book by its cover, after spending an evening with your date, you should have begun to form an opinion if you’d like to see him again or if there is no romantic spark but you would like to remain friends. Try not to over impress but rather to give a true representation of who you are. You do not afterall want him who fall in love with who he thought you are. If it does not feel right to you then cut the date short and leave at once. Do not be embarrassed and you are under no obligation to go into a detailed explanation of why. Just politely make your apologies and go. Trust your intuition and let it play a major role in your decision making process. Better an awkward exit now then a bad situation later.

Meeting a new partner ought to be an exciting time and as long as you have your wits about you and follow your common sense and these dating tips, you should have a successful time in meeting new and interesting people online.

This article was first published on CurvyDate.co.uk, a UK dating BBW site and a place to mingle with plus size singles.

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