BBW – Rev up that sex drive!

by admin on October 31, 2011

When Peter Andre broke up with Katie Price he cited the lack of sex as one of his reasons for filing for divorce. It was all the more surprising as whenever the couple were interviewed, the discussion always led back to one topic. Sex.  Peter is said to have gone without sex for four months. Is there anything that he, his wife or together as a couple they could have done to bring the spice back into their lives? What if you are a larger date?

  • Cut down on the alcohol:
    While a bit of alcohol can cause you to loosen up and remove inhibitions, too much is known to decrease sexual drive. Even Peter Andre speaking on his split from Jordan admitted that much. “I’m not jealous of anybody until Katie is drunk. It makes our relationship vulnerable. From the moment she starts drinking I lose her and I don‘t get her back until the next morning. The devil gets inside her and she’s a nightmare. I trust her when she’s sober but I don’t trust her when she’s drinking.”
  • Reduce the Stress:
    Stress can have an adverse effect on sex. When stressed, two hormones are released by the body (Cortisol and Adrenaline) to create the fight or flight reaction needed to deal with the threat. When produced over a prolonged period, the body enters chronic stress mode leading to an inability to orgasm. With her hectic life in front of the cameras constantly being filmed for her upcoming reality show,  training and competing in dressage events and not forgetting her modelling career, it is no wonder she didn’t feel up to it.
  • Trauma Counselling: 
    Previous traumatic experiences could affect a person’s lifestyle becoming promiscuous or withdrawn in effort to try to regain some control over the event. In an interview with Piers Morgan, Jordan revealed that she was allegedly sexually assaulted at the age of six! She claimed’some weirdo’ in a park exposed himself to her. Trying to be brave, she claimed during the interview “Well, it’s never affected me” but fighting back tears she admits ‘But obviously it must have done, for me to just feel like that. But I don’t know. You just learn to get on with things, don’t you?’
  • Quit arguing:
    Pent up anger can lead to resentment and if taken to bed, can lead to a loss of sexual urges. The arguments between Peter and Jordan have now become legendary. It was a constant battle with Peter admitting “We don’t realise how much we argue until we watch it back — then we argue about the argument.” These arguments could also lower the attraction level between couples and lead to a loss of sex drive. Hormones are released during an argument including Cortisol and as we have seen earlier, this hormone plays havoc with libido.

Treatments for loss of sex drive will depend on the underlying cause but it needs the support of a partner to cope with. It is a catch 22 situation in that it can lead to stress and arguments which in turn can worsen the problem. Communication, seeking medical help, exercising to boost one’s self esteem and little acts of intimacy like kissing your partner before going out as well as role playing and fantasising can help to get that spark back.

This article was first published on CurvyDate.co.uk, a UK dating BBW site and a place to mingle with plus size singles.

 

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